A few mindfulness strategies can adjust your morning schedule for a happier start to each day!
This article was written by friend and colleague, Samantha Moe, SLP-turned-Parent Coach and creator of the Mad2Glad Blueprint. Samantha is passionate about positive parenting tools to create peace at home, especially for families with intense children.
As a parent you naturally anticipate the change in morning routine way before your child – often with feelings of nervousness or even dread.
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Before we can look at how to START a day we must look at how the previous day ENDED.
You may be surprised to hear that the evening wind-down routine is a primary influence to the wake up routine.
To ensure the day starts on a positive note let’s first look at key components to a restful night’s sleep – – –
- Fresh air and movement
- Positive connection time
- A leisurely bath
- Slower pace when transitioning from room to room
- Quieter speaking volume
- Independent play with only natural light or a lamp in the bedroom
- Bedroom as an electronics-free zone
- Quality reading time with lower lighting
- Your presence and love for the final good-night blessing
With a good night’s sleep under the belt we can now create a plan to wake up your child in a way that is kind and gently energizing to reduce emotional outbursts and angry transitions.
Peaceful Wake Up Tips:
- Start an essential oil diffuser 15-minutes before wake-up time … citrus or peppermint are positive alerting aromas.
- Allow your child to choose a preferred wake-up signal – offer your voice and/or touch, or ask them to select a song that feels happy to them — not an irritating buzzing alarm.
- Awaken your child’s body: draw shapes or letters on their back and allow them to guess what it is, or sit back-to-back and feel how the breathe moves in each of your bodies.
Many children wake up in a state of fight-or-flight stress, either because of how they’re wired or because parents’ unintentional stress amps up their emotions.
We know you do your best but let’s be honest, all of our busy, fast-paced lives can cause us to forget what children need to thrive.
Here is a list of morning disruptors you may want to avoid if Peace and Happiness are your goal…
- Abruptly flipping on overhead lights and tearing off the covers
- Using an irritating alarm sound
- Snapping your fingers, telling children to “Hurry or we’re gonna be late!”
- Threatening punishment if they don’t “Get a move on!”
- Forgetting to welcome the day intentionally by connecting with your child, even if briefly.
- Jumping out of bed in a hurry yourself, without giving yourself extra time to get ready before your child needs to be up.
Science tells us that children’s behavior is naturally a reflection of the adults in their lives. Mirror neurons reflect the state others are in.
If you are calm, collected, and have some effective tools to start the day feeling positive, children will casually demonstrate similar ease and self-control!
However, if you start the day feeling hurried, stressed out, crunched for time, and anxious it is likely that you see your child displaying stress behaviors like whining, yelling, defiance and meltdowns.
At Mad2Glad Parent Coaching, we talk about “fire in the brain.”
Consider for a moment, what do you do that may be fueling your child’s fire?
…and what do you do that successfully calms the fire?
We’d love to hear so please leave a comment!
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Bio: Samantha Moe is a Certified Parent Coach who is a coach and speaker on positive parenting tools that calm the yelling, fighting and frustration in families, particularly ones with Autism, ADHD, and/or Sensory challenges. While working as a Speech Pathologist and Autism Specialist, Samantha discovered key strategies to help children with challenging behaviors become calmer and more cooperative – without threats, bribes, or repetition! Her proven system, the Mad2Glad Blueprint, enables parents of intense children to experience more peace and joy at home.